Out with the Bad and in with the Good!

Breaking the Bad Habit

Breaking a bad habit is a hard path to take, but, on the other hand it will be the most rewarding path you  take in your entire life. If you smoke, drink, eat poorly, use drugs or have the habit of self doubt and destruction ~ you still hold the power of change.

 "It's your life ~ create the one you want to live.".

It's amazing how much of our personal power we give away in our lives. We give the power to other people and their opinions, to bad self image, and habits we know are bad for us physically and mentally. Funny how most of us humans don't get the process of using our personal power to achieve goals, love life fully, and untangle ourselves from terrible habits. 

Removing the bad habit that is keeping you from being all you can be:

  1.  It has been said that a habit can be formed or broken in 21 days. Keep your focus on  the next 3 weeks.
  2. Replace the Bad with Good. Example: Switch the Cheeseburger and Fries for a large colorful Salad filled with Fruits and Vegetables that you love.
  3. Visualize your life without the habit. Freedom.
  4. Utilize the Buddy System - Get a friend or family member to be your tracking buddy
  5. Set a regiment for the time slot usually filled by your habit, Example: if you want to stop drinking and it usually begins after 5 pm, fill this time slot with a walk or hobby.
  6. Journal your success and struggles. Write it down and watch your transformation on paper. You will be so proud of yourself.

Affirmation

"I hold the key to my personal power and choose to live the best life for me."

"I will let go of all that does not serve me and the balance of my life."

" I choose to live life fully as a complete and healthy woman."

Self-Talk ~ building your life one word at a time

Self - Talk is the single most powerful influence on self esteem, self worth, and the ability to achieve your highest goals and dreams of life. Did you know - we have about 50,000 thoughts a day? Whether these thoughts are positive or negative they have a very powerful effect on your life. The continual stream of conversation that goes on inside your head is determining how your life's journey will unfold.

~Very much like a "Self-Fulfilling Prophecy" ~ 
 Thinking about something so much it actually happens.
Positive or Negative!
Self-Talk is often the product of the values or behaviors of childhood.

It's hard to corral 50,000 thoughts daily but if you start with correcting the most prevalent negative thought and turning it into a positive, it will start breaking the pattern instilled most likely from childhood.

Here are some ideas to create change in your thinking patterns:
  • Start tuning into your thoughts
  • Carry a notebook and journal as many thoughts as you can
  • Sort thoughts into three categories
    • first: write what you want to happen in your life
    • second: write your first self response to item in column 1
    • third: write an opposite thought of the one in two previous columns
  • Take a look at your list ~ if column two is more positive than three, you are on the right road. If column three is more positive than two, this is what you want interject into your head chatter. 
                What I want to happen                My self talk                      My opposite thoughts

Here's a parting thought: your subconscious does not differentiate one thought from another - it doesn't know that you don't really mean the negative words. It just plays them out into your life experience, as if that's what you really want to happen. 
In other words ....your thoughts are very powerful.  
Choose them wisely.


For beautiful eyes ~

For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
~ Audrey Hepburn


A story of the catalytic moment ~

I met a young woman the other day that has a job in the military. She is strong, fit and beautiful. Our topic of conversation had to do with that pivotal moment in one's life - the one that we decide we will walk the life of a responsible grown up. After years of bad men and too much fun, this beautiful woman took a look at the life she was providing for her child and made a decision of change.
She knew in her heart ~ "this is my moment of metamorphosis".
Thought: we all have that catalytic moment as we mature ~ What was yours?

Friendship


Friendship: the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, comfort, trust, and sincerity.
Thought: wouldn't life be grand if all our friendships were unconditional? What would the global affect be if each of us worked harder at being a true friend?
Affirmation: as I walk with the people, I will remember that I am a true friend to all and I follow the guidelines of the definition of friendship.


Living Life


Life. Looking back on a tough year for many of us, doesn't it seem as if it really wasn't that bad after all? If we take that knowledge into this new year ~ with the realization that we are standing stronger than ever ~ it's certain to be a magnificent 2012.
Affirmation: I will stand strong in hard times and I will rejoice in the good times. I will never forget how I became the woman I am today. Bring it on 2012.

What is life?

Life = Living while hugging yourself♥

It is all about me♥


As women we tend to be caretakers,whether it's as a child in a large family, a Mom, or even in the workplace ~ we have a tendency to care for and nurture others. This is a beautiful ~ heart filled trait but often times it leaves (ME) out of the picture.
Don't set yourself on the sidelines too often or you may wake up and wonder, "Who am I? What do I stand for? Where's my future?"
Affirmation: My day starts with me and ends with me. I share my love in all that I do and that includes taking care of my needs. I love life and want to fully participate in it♥



Sunday Mornings:

Sunday Mornings: created for reflection and thanks for our gifts in life.
I give thanks to the "Dolls" that continually prove that we can "live life to the fullest"♥
Affirmation: I believe in myself and am proud to be me. As I reflect and show gratitude for my life, I remember to thank myself for continuing to grow and become all that I can be.


Stepping Out

 Life is meant to be lived. When you stay within the comfort zone - are you really living? Do you have dreams that you won't act on because it would mean that you have to go outside your world of familiarity? It's time to Step Out!!
Challenge: Write down 5 things you want to accomplish in 2012. Now write down where you want to be in 5 years. What do you have to do to get there? Do you have to Step Out of your comfort zone?
Affirmation: My growth is up to me. I can work outside my comfort zone and prove to myself that I am strong enough to reach my goals in life.
I enhance my life one step at a time♥



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