Shame is a learned response.There is a lot of interest in shame these days in relation to addition and recovery of addictions. When we start feeling shameful, we leave ourselves and operate much like someone on drugs or alcohol Nothing clear can get in. Nothing clear can come out.It is important to remember that shame is learned and that anything that is learned can be unlearned. Shame was used to control us when we were younger, and now we often use it to control others. When we start feeling ashamed, no new information can come in , we cannot process information clearly, and we cannot communicate clearly. We are in our addictive disease.
It is important to see the role shame has played in our lives. It is also important not to stay stuck in it.
* this article was found posted by Anne Wilson Schaef